Accept yourself for who you are. With all the advantages and disadvantages.
The best way to overcome fear is to face it. When in the company of friends you want to say something, but you are afraid of being in a stupid position, feel free to start talking. If it turns out that the statement turned out to be not quite on the topic, in no case do not lock yourself in, comprehending all the “horror” of the current situation, but sincerely laugh with everyone.
Self-irony is one of the best means to increase self-esteem and build self-confidence. Don’t take yourself too seriously.
Always try to think positively. And no “what if” or “suddenly”! Only positive thinking, diluted with healthy humor.
Never get hung up on what people think of you. If you feel that it is appropriate to say something in a conversation, speak calmly, and do not evaluate how certain potential critics may react to your words. Again, if it turned out to “blow up” something, refer to point 3.
Compare yourself to other people correctly. Some manuals on how to increase self-esteem, on the contrary, say that you cannot compare yourself. But to be honest, we always, on a subconscious level, compare ourselves with someone. So isn’t it better to do it right? What is the secret? When comparing yourself with a more successful person, try not to withdraw into yourself, but on the contrary, take it as a challenge in a good sense of the word. If someone has achieved that his opinion is listened to – can’t I achieve at least the same?
The last tip is extremely important.
Write down your positive and negative qualities on paper. Look at it every day and analyze your behavior. If you are not too lazy to make this small list and devote a couple of minutes a day to analysis, the results will surprise you in the near future. The list might look something like this:
My Advantages Disadvantages
- Kindness
- Honesty
- Modesty
- Loyalty
- complaisance
- calmness
- Patience
- shyness
- tightness
- indecisiveness
- Fear of looking stupid
- Lack of self-irony
- lack of humor
- suspiciousness
Well, friends, now you know how to increase your self-esteem. It remains to add only one thing: do not be lazy to work on yourself!
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